Successful Adulting- AKA How I Avoid Losing My Shit.

If you’ve been watching this space, you probably know that I have one child who has a traumatic brain injury and some mental health issues. ONE of the things that I have to deal with on a regular basis when it comes to her care is that she has trips to the ER, lots of trips to the doctor, and all the things.

Since I’m her legal guardian, I get the distinct displeasure of dealing with doctors, nurses, and medical practitioners on a regular basis. Usually, I’m dealing with people who haven’t read her charts. Or who ASSume I don’t know what I’m talking about.

One such example happened just last week. Kiddo had to go to the ER, because some stuff was going on with her, and because I’ve been dealing with this situation for years at this point, I tend to kind of know what’s going on, and where we are in the pattern or cycle. I told the care team what was going on- that we were at the initial state of a Catatonic/catatonia episode, and that she needed to be given Ativan.

Three days later- I’m talking to the doctor- FINALLY- and they are asking me a ton of questions that tell me they have 0 clue what my daughter’s baseline is. What her normal state is. And they have not actually looked at her chart.

What gave it away? Medical provider asked if we had tried a particular medication that…