Tell me I can’t do something, that it’s impossible, and I’m probably going to do whatever it is, and do it twice, and take pictures while I’m at it.
In fact, in the earlier years of my business, I was juggling dealing with my oldest daughter, who had sustained a traumatic brain injury from a fall from a horse, and subsequently developed severe psychosis, and schizophrenia. To say it has been challenging would be a massive understatement. We’ve had multiple suicide attempts, homicidal ideations and a plan to kill the family, manic episodes, and 18 hospitalizations.
All the while taking care of my three younger children, and growing my business from the ground up, with a husband who couldn’t see the point of it.
The words “You’ll never… “ were attached to quite a few things. So, needless to say, I figured out how to make those things happen, and take notes, and pictures. The list is pretty long, from making sure that my oldest daughter has care for the rest of her life, along with fully replacing my income from corporate (and then some).
I’m going to guess it goes without saying that it hasn’t been easy, and has been downright painful at times. I drove for Uber, and there was that one ride that I picked up at 4 AM that wanted to go 3 hours to the coast- and then I had to drive home.
The constant through it all? My thoughts. What I learned that I can’t control what other people think, or say. It really doesn’t matter.
Family not into my business? Asking me when I’m going to get a “real” job, because it would be “easier”. Easier for who, exactly? More beneficial, how? (Exactly how was I supposed to work a regular job with a kid who had such serious issues?)
I had a huge mission- Keep everyone alive and healthy, and make an income while doing it, and help thousands of other business owners grow their businesses.
It was pretty simple really. Put one foot in front of the other, and keep moving forward. Keep my eyes on the ball, and on the goal.
I stopped comparing my progress to other people’s.
I quit caring what other people think, or say.
I faced my own demons, and stared them down. I did the hard work on myself. I fell in love with myself. And I put myself first. That sounds incredibly selfish, and as a woman, it’s the hardest part! Nothing else worked until I took that step.
And then miracles happened. And more miracles. The more I worked on my own demons, and kept focus, the more miracles.
The process of getting care for my daughter was arduous, and difficult to say the least, but I had support from a number of angels in the community who magically showed up at the right time, and helped me. I just kept the vision.
My business grew, my kids kept being able to go to their schools, I bought a new car. Because I had a vision, and I kept it in my head. I reminded myself daily of why I was doing this crazy thing.
I lost 175 pounds, and got healthier. Last night, I helped my daughter move out of her apartment for the summer, lugging stuff up and down the stairs for 2 hours. An accomplishment that before would have been completely unimaginable.
The important lesson for me was that I get what I hold in my head and focus on. What you focus on grows.
What you focus on becomes reality.
It doesn’t matter if your family, friends, or network think you’ve lost your marbles. It’s what you believe and feel and know in your heart that matters.
Go ahead. Show them what they said was impossible, and take pictures.